Being a man in the 21st century can be a complicated thing for us older guys. The young guns are coming up in the world - some becoming billionaires in their 30s - and whether you have money or not, one thing is certain, classic manners will never go out of style, and can set you apart from the herd.
Lions like us, men who have been around, done a lot of things, made mistakes and got better with each lesson learned, have an advantage over younger guys with big degrees but no social skills. And this isn’t confined to the business world. We’re being judged and sized-up with every interaction we have, and falling back on what we learned as kids, back in the age where minding your manners was key, is a positive thing.
So what am I referring to? Holding the door for people. Saying thank you and being sincere about it. Treating service staff of any kind with respect. Asking about people with the intent of really getting to know and understand them. Showing compassion.
All of these are traits that I believe the modern sage, warrior, and gentleman needs to possess and practice regularly. They shouldn’t even be things you think about, they should be ingrained in you, in who you are, and in how you behave every day.
Things get rough sometimes, I know, believe me I know. But we have to rise above that and get stronger all the time. We have value that a lot of younger people in the world don’t understand. A lot of companies won’t talk to you because their mandate is generally to get the youngest, cheapest talent they can.
But you and I can come to the rescue of many younger people, younger men especially, and many companies.
The world needs a return to manners and compassion. Us guys over 50 can help usher this back in if we believe we can and if we try. I’m giving it my best shot every day, in the way I talk to and mentor younger guys. Sometimes the opportunities fall right in your lap, other times you have to seek them out, and provide the open space for that young buck to trust you and ask you things. They’re eager to learn – well a lot of them are.
You have to admit that when you were 20, 30, 40 – you didn’t want to listen to anybody. I’m raising my hand really high right now! I thought I knew it all. But… I had some really great mentors and although I was stubborn, some of the lessons I thought I’d never need, are with me now and have opened may possibilities for me, as I’m sure some have for you too.
Go to it my fellow SWG,